You’re looking for a safe space for you. But therapy by-the-book just isn’t gonna work for you - you know the book too well! That clever, highly educated brain of yours will see straight through the standard fare and start questioning “why am I paying this therapist to tell me things I already know, things I have a graduate degree in?”
I’ve been there.
Let’s presume you already know all the basics and are already using them to help yourself.
Let’s presume you’re the highly emotionally intelligent, caring professional that you are.
Let’s presume that you’re an excellent space holder; so good, in fact, that it probably comes naturally to you (and you may even start doing it without even noticing, especially when there’s not another space holder stepping up).
With all that foundation already in place, what do therapists really need from a therapist? We don’t need a ton of psychoeducation or a list of cognitive distortions or a boatload of skills. We don’t need to work through a manual. We don’t need to slip into shop talk to avoid dealing with our own stuff.
We need therapists to create a solid, safe, compassionate container in which we can do our own work. Because, let’s face it, it’s really hard to both *create our own container* AND *do our own work* at the same time. Have you tried? I’ve tried. It’s hard!
I got you.
What makes me so confident that I can hold space for the bigness of you - the depth of feeling, the secondary trauma, the highly educated mind, & the ability to see through the process? It’s because I’m doing my own work. I’ve done my own shadow work, so nothing that may be lurking in your shadow scares me. I’m highly sensitive and understand the pain that can come with receiving clients’ most painful stories for a living. I’ve studied not only therapy but also energy work and somatic trauma release and yoga and shamanism so I can bring a perspective that comes from anywhere but a therapy manual. And most importantly, I have people holding space for me so that I can continue doing my own deep work.
Honor yourself by allowing someone to share the load. Let me hold that same caring, compassionate space for you, so you can do your own deep work.